Tips To Control Your Anger

Tips To Control Your Anger

By: Noel Nicolas Villarosa

March 20, 2012

A person's age does show the behavioral reaction that he will be getting from any provoking event. It is normal for the young and the old to show feelings of disapproval. In any perceived provocation which cannot be tolerated, our mind will interpret it as contrary to our doctrine. Children are having anger as a temporary emotional state, and this prompted as soon as they feel suspicious of being displaced by a rival or more likely reaction to frustrations. In the older age group, anger is a manifestation of great emotion and a deep understanding of this feeling instinctively. Here are some helpful tips and suggestions on how to control your anger:

In any case, you will be caught in abrupt anger, and a sudden heap of emotions will try to convince you to retaliate. Sometimes, your reaction will rely on the time and environment, and very slim your chance of handling provocation in a peaceful manner because of failure to justify your anger. Alertness of mind to verify situation is a straightforward solution to get out from your anger.

• Do some deep breathing in an unusual manner, like doing it the other way around. While inhaling, have your stomach inflated, and deflated while exhaling. This will focus your mind on the breathing exercises and that will eventually forget your anger.

• Performing some mental images of things or events, like imagining yourself in places you have never visited or a thought of all the negative scenarios and outcomes of getting into trouble because of your bigotry. This imagery-based will relieve your pressure and stress.

• Do some soul activities that give a soothing effect like reviving old belongings and photos in your disarray attic, rewarding yourself relaxing in the calmness of the sea, or feel the strong wind at the top of the mountain. All of these will help to cool your temper and to remain on slow-burn mode.

• Stonewalling your anger. This is an attempt to delay your bursting feeling by refusing to accept your anger's challenge, for a moment take a pause, and counting to ten may give you time to think about how to react in a diplomatic way without freaking out.

• Walking away from the scene and going inside your room to release the anger by shouting out loud, or by having a qualitative change of interest in doing something for relaxing will overcome emotional tension.

• Be observant of your anger pattern. If it is recurring even in a simple misunderstanding, better if you make an appointment with your doctor, just to be sure if such behavior is still normal or needs medical treatment.

• Change your core beliefs that in rude retaliation will always release the stress, and will satisfy your revenge. Try considering also the enduring effect of the hurting words that may cause an irreparable harm, and that only time can heal the scarce it has made.

• Voicing your anger in a calm and constructive way will put you in a good position to control your anger without creating a feeling of guilt and shame.

• If you are not comfortable in voicing your anger, try writing it all down on a piece of paper or electronic mail can be emotionally purging.

• Don't be afraid to ask for advice from your parents and closest friends if the problem gets complicated. It is still mitigating if you feel someone's commiseration.

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Bamboo Tree

Bamboo Tree
(Rhyme Form)

26 February 2012
By: Noel N. Villarosa

Evergreen tree-like green herbage
Abounding woody stems travelling upwards
In a flick, moments-of-memory refuse to cede
At the sound of rustling leaves, pay off a reverie

Pliant in face of neither storms nor monsoons
It just sways and bends but never lose its elegance
Misty outside and leafing out to commune
Submissive to nature’s onrush by its restless dance

As the wind blows in every direction
Unmindful are we to disregard nature’s course
God’s invitation to see and listen into its perfection
On how each sight and sound heal one’s scarce

Bamboo nodes strengthen its stem
Each step is a faint for its humble growth
Interaction – a never dying language for ecosystem
Find comfort to its shadows as a token of troth

Not built for eternity but new shoots will replace
To repeat its vow to shed green leaves to procreate
An inseparable companion to give refuge and embrace
For all passing guests finding a way to relate


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February 26, 2012

Working From Home

10 Things You Don't Know About Working From Home

1. You'll suddenly realize that housewives are totally busy people -with hardly any breaks.
2. You'll be challenged not to work because your cute baby is staring at you, saying "play!".
3. You'll be asked constantly, "What do you want to eat today" by your spouse.
4. If you're not careful, that DVD collection will be your #1 distraction from work.
5. You don't remember when was the last time you took a bath/shaved.
6. You're suddenly more interested in nice looking shorts and pajamas in the mall.
7. Your cellphone isn't getting much use unlike before.
8. When you walk to the neighborhood park, pool, all you see are yayas and their wards.
9. When it rains, you're happy you're indoors and won't be going anywhere!
10. In the hot months, you're happy that you can afford an aircon for your room!
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Long Distance Parent - How to Lighten Up a Child’s Longing Through Video Call

By: Noel N. Villarosa

Nowadays, most parents need to reconcile with the condition of living apart (because of working outside their home country) while craving a connection with their loved ones. They are synthesizing the best possible efforts and ideas in order to provide food, shelter, education, and love for their children.

Time will always challenge your flexibility. Wise decisions will make a difference in your lives. Your choice of work comes with big responsibilities and with great privileges, which sometimes puts you apart from your loved ones. Working overseas is seeking greener pastures, and you bravely adapt to the new condition of the new place. It is hard to accept living outside your home country, and being apart with your loved ones is psychologically disturbing not only for the parents but most especially to a child. However, be grateful that you are now living in the computer era and everything is just a click away to send a message and video call, and enjoy the pleasure of chatting while doing other tasks. Outside your home, iPhone 3GS will bridge that gap. However, did you ask yourself how to afford quality time with your child to relieve loneliness that he is getting while you are away? How to build that close personal relationship between a parent and a child on a distant communication is through personal experience that you could improve as time goes by.

Availability. It is important that you let your child feel your presence most of the time. It is your everyday tasks to video call him and to ask him as to what has transpired during the day. Your child will be able to build trust and confidence to speak out his feelings. In asking, your child could explore the will to think rationally. Your presence can mean so much for him that he can be proud to tell this to other children.

Visualization. The power of your mind puts you in control, thus your child will open up his awareness of the things communicated. Online storytelling would be such fun to let him share what he understands about the story that would eventually spark an open dialogue between a parent and a child. Allow your child to share also his naive story and praise for his wonderful narration. It is helping your child on how to communicate and share his feelings. In visualization, it helps to prolong the conversation, thus making it more exciting for your child to create his own story out of his visual perception. Listening on your part is a great role as a parent.

Making Fun. Spice things up when you make an online call to your child. A child will never run out of a game plan to lay down, and he wants to capture every bit of utmost joy. If he wants to pretend as a superhero, let him feel the excitement. If he insists of typing his name into the computer, you just let him do it and praise a work done by sending him some emoticons like a star, a smiley face, or a heart. There are webcams to jazz up your video image into an animation where your child could initiate a fairy talk. Be interested in making your child's world more fascinating and fun-loving moments.

Tour and Invite. Using your webcam or mobile phone, you can tour him around into your place and let him see your bedroom, television, cabinet, and other things--so he would also know that you are living well. You can also show to him his pictures that you are bringing and keeping all the time, and tell how you well-loved and treasured it. It is more riveting if you will promise that you are going to get him and having him live with you.

Bidding Goodbye. The sad part of a conversation is the time for farewell. Let your child feel that it is not parting ways, but just for a bedtime routine and need to rest, a full-length read of a bedtime story would complete your child's evening, and before signing out, you extend your arms, as if reaching your child for an embrace. Forming your hands into a heart shape is an additional way of bidding goodbye. The last thing, tell that you love him, and always ensure that you will see him again.


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How to React Professionally to Negative Comments in your Article

By: Noel N. Villarosa
15 Sept. 2011


Everyone is free to express their opinions. Exhilarating feeling, once we received a good feedback, and feel disappointed over a discontented comment. You are writing because you have good reasons to be on this profession. In general, you are fully responsive to reader’s needs, and to provide them with the highest quality information for their personal growth, advancement, and empowerment. Don’t shove yourself to be a good writer at an instant, it is not like striking at a ball with a club in a single complete movement. You are required to observe and feel before putting it into writing. Every opinion is supported by an argument, and this is how your defensive reactions will be tested.

Be Open-Minded. Every now and then, we will be facing up a disgraceful events. We are living in a world where partiality is common, that is why we are easily impressed emotionally by what is said or written. Always think that your readers are promiscuous, and that their comments are ecumenical. Always think that you are not favorably singled-out among other writers to have received such negative comments. This kind of mind-set will help you to quell self-pity and fear of writing again.

Be Critical. Be your own critic. A careful evaluation and re-reading of your article could find unnoticeable errors and flaws that you could change and improve for a best reading result. This also attracts good feedback from your readers. It is like reflecting your image into the mirror, and see if you are well-groomed before showing up. You cannot please everyone, instead, be professional in accepting their insights.

Ruling Out. During our school days, we are given rigorous disciplining, and we are conditioned into the method of selecting and eliminating to get the best answer to the question. The same thing in reading comments from your article. You need to sort things out to know what comments are being constructive or an abusive ad hominem attack. If comments are snarky, you could eliminate by ignoring it from your thoughts, as they are only creating a confusion. If it is a constructive criticism, it can be consummated by citing a helpful suggestions which you can be thankful.

Redeeming From Insult. To allay a sagging spirit from a spiteful comment, why don’t spend your time in writing another interesting article as a make-work. Your murmuring will turn into fulfillment once you release a gutsy talk of your feelings, and will find yourself back again in the stream of writing.

Considering Squeeze Play. Imagine yourself playing in a baseball competition, wherein your critics are your secret allies and playing as the batter. Eventually, not realizing it, that for every comment entered into your article is like a bunt on the pitch that could help you score for a home run, and safely touch home base of the writer's league. For in numerous attempts of writing could become an acquired habit for writing confidently. Always think that you can write, and could deliver a helpful article to your readers. Simply prove to yourself that you can write effectively.

Eclipse Of The Soul

28 October 2009
By: Noel N. Villarosa


Plants harmonize to the sun to bring life aglow
And to rest at the night’s luminary
The sea is waiting for the wind to blow
And serve as a cradle for fish hatchery

And mankind, on the hustle and bustle of each day
Gyrate on a merry-go-round, so tedious
Withal, a wishy-washy self
And a thrall of his own fear
Thither that place called ‘hades’
And in his dream the edelweiss and wisteria
Go down to ecocide
The fierce billow has taken many billets-doux
Into a forlorn land
Pensive for a homing pigeon to carry his thought to God
That once awaken, a harmonica is playing
And a new paradise for dwelling
Many at threescore are not contented
And praying for a longer life
But many committed blasphemy so umpteen
And now yelling for the forgiveness of sin
And the fracas he brought to nature

Now mankind is waiting for the great covenant
For the realization of life, truth, and love as above all
And the destruction of sin, sickness, and death
Before he sees the complete eclipse of his soul.

Posted in: Voicesnet.com on 28 October 2009
Poetrysoup.com on 23 May 2010

A Perfect Company

23 May 2010
By: Noel N. Villarosa

They are the big fish in a small pond
They received kudos and power widely
With their bunch of fives used as their wand
They dominate while sitting idly

Been tasked in carrying coals to Newcastle
Never saw them as cool as a cucumber
The atmosphere of the office is in a chronical hassle
Mobility and formative years, they are there to encumber

World-weary, so he indulged into stargazing
That he was working in a peculiar place
Where people work with eternal bliss
Where no one to make shudder and no egotist displaying

Everyone is happy to comply with buoyant spirits
You feel as no stranger but as a longtime friend
Where giving recognition and importance have no limits
Different origins and cultures do blend

There were no rush works and pressures
No deadline to meet and sanction
All work harmoniously with pleasures
And get involved in another function

They were wearing a white uniform
No shoes, all are barefooted
No pains to bear and no hurting words thrown
A feeling of living in your own homestead

The place is boundless in its beauty
Where children play with other creatures
No darkness, only eternal light and free from enmity
That you can rest in the placidity of its seashore

Then a meeting was called and everyone gathered in the garden
He was introduced by the man sitting on the throne
He saw the man’s face as magnanimous, charmingly simple and serene
A soothing voice and said, my son, there is no contract signing that you can hold your own
Only love will bind us as one.


Posted in: voicesnet.com poetry site on 4 January 2010 and poetrysoup.com on 23 May 2010.

Father and Son

17 March 2010
By: Noel N. Villarosa
(Quatrain Form)

--Mirrored Refrain--
--xaBA xbAB xaBA xbAB xaBA xbA--


Fare thee well, to humbly exist and live for my son
If he feels blue, I’ll be his clown
Everything will be fine and dandy
As a father knows best

Mother having the hand that rocks the cradle
Father as a pillar of the home
As a father knows best
Everything will be fine and dandy

I’ll choose clothes that fit him
Among the choices to pare down
Everything will be fine and dandy
As a father knows best

Accompanying him for his first haircut with the barber
And buying for his first pocket comb
As a father knows best
Everything will be fine and dandy

Accompany him to every breathtaking ride
Share the quiver and embrace to cool down
Everything will be fine and dandy
As a father knows best

Learn the ropes and lend an ear
For life is the epitome of adventuresome
As a father knows best
Everything will be fine and dandy.

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